I never thought I would get married, but now I am. I used to think marriage is unnecessary and even a bit stupid, but I guess that was one of the things I changed my mind about over time. Especially when I knew how important getting married was to the love of my life, how could it not get important to me?
We had a civil wedding a few months back to get our legal marriage certificates, and then we had a blessing conducted by one of the pastors of our own church on the 20th of September. Even though the civil wedding out of a legal point would be considered our “real wedding”, I didn’t feel that it was for real before the church ceremony. During the civil wedding we only had four witnesses, while we during the church wedding celebrated with about 50 of our closest family members and friends.
We had a very much DIY- wedding, we barely hired anyone to do anything, but the ceremony and the reception came together by a lot of helpful and inspirational friends and family members. It was not perfect looking, or perfectly organized, but it was still a great day – I would not have traded it for something “perfect” made by a wedding planner, because thinking about the time people dedicated into making our day special just makes it worth so much more.
I will not post a lot of pictures of us or the guests here, it feels too private for such a public blog, but I will give you pictures of details, and of course of the food and the cake. We had our pictorial outdoors, surrounded by amazing autumn colors. Our photographer was Ann-Britt Pada, and some of the pictures from the pictorial can actually be seen on her website.
My dress was made by R’s aunt in the Philippines, so I could choose any style I liked and also request for the materials to make sure it was vegan. Since the dress was made in the Philippines and I’m here in Finland, I could of course not try it on during the process of making it, so unfortunately it was just a little too big when it arrived and we had to quick fix it with some safety pins. R was wearing a Barong Tagalog, the Filipino national shirt, made out of pineapple and synthetic silk.
When it came to the bouquet, I wanted it to match the autumn colors around us and spice up my otherwise very white appearance, so it was made with different types of flowers in red, yellow and orange shades.
The place was mainly decorated by a friend of ours, but R made some of the details.
We didn’t have catering for the food, but it was made by some friends of ours, and they were also the ones to mainly decide the menu. We actually didn’t taste the different dishes prior to the wedding, but we trusted our “chefs” and it turned out great. Here’s the food we had on our buffet table (bigger version of the pictures can be seen by clicking them):
- Afritada, a Filipino dish
- Stir fried vegetables with tofu
- Red beet patties
- Vegetarian spring rolls
- Fresh salad with olives and sun-dried tomatoes on the side
The wedding cake was made by the vegetarian restaurant Vegana. They don’t officially cater cakes yet, but we still asked them if it would be possible for them to make our cakes, and they agreed. Maybe in the future they will really cater cakes also officially. We asked for chocolate cakes since I’m a big chocolate maniac – and we got to taste the cake with to different fillings a few days prior to the wedding. One of the fillings was strawberries and chia seeds, the other one a kind of chocolate mousse and finely chopped pears. We could not really decide which one we wanted to have, so since we would have several smaller cakes we decided to have a few of each.
One of our friends created the program and many of the guests also contributed with something during the party. R even did a surprise dance for me together with some friends!
All in all, we had a really great day, much because of all the amazing people who helped us and who attended the wedding. Thank you so much, we could not have done it without you!
For sure this wedding was also one of the best advocacies I’ve done for vegan food, because it changed the way many of the guests look at vegan food. My grandfather told me he was skeptical towards the food before eating – because he had no idea what vegan food actually means and probably thought it was all about lettuce and carrots – but he liked the food very much and even asked me for the recipes so that they could make it at home. How is that for success?